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Flow Friday ~ “No Regrets”

“No regrets” does not necessarily mean that you would repeat the same exact choices you made in the past. In fact, you can be regret-less and still do something differently if given the chance.

The difference is this: you’ve accepted the fact that you cannot go back in time and change things that have already been done. And you are at peace with that. You no longer hold a grudge.

What “no regrets” means is, moving forward, you will choose differently. You will take your lessons from the past and utilize them. You can’t change the past, however you can most certainly change the future.

As frustrating as it is, some lessons must be learned the hard way, or else they never stick. Sometimes the pain is absolutely necessary. And it takes feeling someone else’s pain to understand the pain you have caused.

It takes time and space to be able to see yourself from an outsider’s perspective. And when you do this, you can see where you went wrong.

If you get so caught up in trying to change the past, you will feel powerless. That feeling of powerlessness will crush your self-esteem and therefore cause you to continue making negative choices.

You have to accept everything before you can find clarity. And when you find clarity, it brings back your power, and your confidence to follow your heart and remain true to yourself.

Throwback Thursday ~ Melanie Safka

One of the best musicians from the late 60s/70s was the underrated Melanie Safka. She performed at the legendary Woodstock 1969 and was the first female artist to have three singles reach the Top 40.

Melanie Safka covered some classic artists of her time such as Bob Dylan and The Rolling Stones, putting in her own unique sound and making it even better. “Ruby Tuesday,” I believe was meant to be sung by a woman. She took “A Hard Rain’s Gonna Fall” and added some spunky female pizzazz, making it stronger and more powerful.

As a talented song-writer, she wrote some extraordinary masterpieces. She is best known for her song “Brand New Key,” which she wrote by herself in about fifteen minutes. The song is cute, catchy, and carries a nostalgic 1930’s vibe to it. “For somebody who don’t drive, I’ve been all around the world // Some people say I’ve done alright for a girl.”

Yet she wrote more than just bops. Melanie Safka was ultimate hippie-inspiration, as she used her platform to make political statements and voice her unpopular opinions. She has always been a big believer in peace, individual rights, animal rights, environmentalism, equality, and feminism. Melanie labels herself as a libertarian and dissociates herself from both the democratic and republican parties.

“What Have They Done to My Song, Ma?” is another big hit of hers. The song is about the corruption of the world, how innocence is twisted and exploited into profit. “Well if the people are buying tears, then we’ll be rich someday, Ma.”

“I Don’t Eat Animals” is not only political but also somewhat humorous. “I don’t eat white flour, white sugar makes you rot // Oh white could be beautiful, but often, it’s not,” she sings as you can hear laughter from the crowd in the live-recorded version. Melanie sings about being vegetarian — very straightforward. “I don’t eat animals, I want nothing dead in me.”

“Peace Will Come (According to Plan)” and “Lay Down (Candles in the Rain)” are also favorites of mine. They promote peace and encourage hope.

Melanie Safka is one-of-a-kind and deserves to be remembered and celebrated long after her time. Her positive impact on the world through music exceeds any other male artist.

Self-care Sunday ~ the soothing effect of pushing yourself

The best way to get ahead in life is gently and with ease. Rushing ahead is only going to make you burnout. We are fragile beings yet capable of so much.

To push someone else is draining, wasteful. We tend to push others because we are too scared or lazy to do something ourselves. –Telling them what to do or how to live.

To feel pushed by another is just as depleting. A great amount of ourselves is used trying to please others, compromise, and balance out conflicting energies. The expectations placed upon us feel heavy and weigh us down.

When you push your own self, you are actually getting somewhere. It can seem like a struggle, but essentially you are cradling your soul. Once you push past the human nature to rebel against yourself, you no longer feel like an enemy of yourself.

Don’t try to get things done by telling others what to do, and don’t let other people tell you what you need to be doing. There is a great imbalance of pushing and pulling in the world. If you do not create your own life, set your own goals, master your own intentions — you will inevitably be the person pushing others or getting pushed by others.

Flow Friday ~ the answers are within

You can try to find the answers in the world, but you will only become more lost. You can look up articles, read books, watch movies, ask people, all the things that cause you to extend outwards to seek your answers. This will only add confusion by distracting you from everything that is within.

When you are able to pause for a moment and shut off the distractions, the answers will become more clear.

Most of the time we already know what the answers are, but we seek outwards anyway strictly because we are looking for reassurance. And even when we find approval on the outside, it still never seems to be enough. No amount of external recognition can fix the need for validation.

Only until you go deeper within will you lose the need for validation because you learn to trust yourself, trust your decisions, trust your wisdom.

Less trying, more being

In times of insecurity, we find ourselves trying too hard… all for what? Trying hard to impress someone who can’t be pleased, trying to force things and fake things, and so on. It’s too much of a fight and solves nothing. There’s no peace.

But I don’t know how to live this way. It’s a real struggle. I try not to put much pressure on others but it can’t compare to the pressure I put on myself.

Anyway, I’m just trying. I’m trying not to try. I’m trying to just be. But you can’t try to be. You have to just be.

It’s tough, but I can completely accept the fact that some people won’t like me because of the true person I am. However I cannot accept someone disliking me for a false persona that comes from trying too hard, overthinking, worrying, and not staying grounded enough.

It’s about having faith in the universe, trusting it, and believing in yourself.

Saving face or saving grace?

So often politeness is used as an excuse to be hurtful. I have subconsciously done it a handful of times but hope to never do it again. Politeness is a difficult art to master and only constructive if used correctly. Otherwise, it can be extremely destructive in such a subtle way.

To be polite means to show respect, yet so often we confuse genuine civility with putting on a front for personal gains. It takes strength to set aside your personal issues with someone in exchange for acknowledgment that everyone is facing challenges behind the scenes that we know nothing about. However, this is easily twisted into “saving face” and trying to make your ego look good in a situation that may be emotionally triggering.

Politeness is a social construct our society has developed in order to maintain peace and therefore be civilized. But this is such an illusion. A society that suppresses internal conflict in order to appear externally harmonious — is that true progress? The conflict is still there — it’s just hidden.

It’s no wonder that so many people are disillusioned — because nobody wants to speak the truth. Nobody wants to risk their ego for true soul growth. Nobody wants to look like the “bad guy” even though they know deep in their heart that they are doing the right thing.

When you are cleaning up a mess, you have to get dirty before you get clean. When you are organizing a space, you have to make a mess before you sort through it. If unpleasant things are coming to the surface then that’s when you know that the healing process has truly begun.

Respect is a complicated thing and it’s not as black-and-white as simply being polite. No, that’s more like putting a band-aid on a broken leg. Sticking up for yourself may not be socially acceptable, but if you are able to rise above your ego, then you experience soul growth and healing — for you, and also for everyone who surrounds you and absorbs your light.

Feet on the ground, head in the clouds

“Shoot for the moon. And if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”

I have a hyperactive imagination. I’m always dreaming, all the time. I like to write as a way of reminding myself that fantasy and reality are different. I don’t think we should ever stop dreaming though, no matter what people say. I wish more people would open their minds. I may say I have an open mind, then I find myself in situations where I feel trapped and realize my mind is not as open as I would like to believe. Still, I always have that go-with-the-flow attitude — part of the reason may be a need to please others, but mainly it comes from knowledge that life is an adventure and trust that the universe has better plans for me than I have for myself. Tiny inconveniences can somehow turn into gigantic miracles.

You can’t live life laying face flat on the ground. Life becomes so dull, tiring, and draining that way. Those who lay on the ground are ten times as delusional than those who let themselves float high. Tiredness is a choice. The body is capable of so much strength and endaurance, but our minds block it when we feel uninspired. Children have much less energy than adults, but it does not seem this way — and that’s because they have not yet let the world tell them to stop dreaming.

Ground yourself by disconnecting from the mind and connecting to the body. Feel your heartbeat and your breath. Use your five senses: look, hear, smell, taste, and touch your environment. Your body is wiser than your mind. Your mind can easily twist things and tell you lies, but the body cannot lie. This is how you truly ground yourself. —Not by thinking pessimestically.

Everyone has their own unique perception and set of beliefs. So it’s easy for misunderstandings to happen. I think a lot of people are scared of being judged, I know that I am, but others should know that I am the least judgmental person ever. Sometimes we find others intimidating when it is actually a direct reflection of our own insecurities. And then other times we assume someone is on the same page as us when actually they do not agree with your mindset at all. You have to respect people’s differences.

Life is magical when you let yourself dream! Just don’t get lost in the clouds… I have a hope deep inside of me that can sometimes carry me away from reality. I try so hard at times to stay hopeless, but I can’t. I’m so sorry that I can never stop hoping, I can never stop dreaming. Some dreams can be hurtful to others and I try to tell myself that, but then “hope” convinces me that pain is an illusion you can rise above, you just need more hope. My hope says that anything is possible, dreams don’t have to hurt anyone if we can all believe in ourselves. But I suppose that’s just not realistic. I suppose that is straight up delusional thinking.

I have to keep some hope alive because it is what keeps me going. It is what pushes me out of bed every morning when I would rather sleep all day and hide from everyone. It motivates me to create a future; it reminds me that life is sacred and has purpose. I nurture my hope but I try not to overfeed it and let it become greedy or overpowering. Hope is a good thing. You can hope that others will share your dreams and help them come true, but that’s really all you can do — hope. You cannot force or expect anything. Nobody owes you anything. If you are forcing a dream on someone then you are disrespecting their own dreams. It’s not easy — to say the least. Nothing “easy” is ever worth it. There is a balance between the soil and the sky.

At least I am grounded enough to admit that I don’t always see things clearly. I am aware that my perception of life is — not just “unique” — but weird! I see everything in very weird ways, which makes sense that people get uncomfortable. I can’t control what others think of me and that is something I am grounded enough to accept.

I also can’t help but let myself be a dreamer. Some dreams really are meant to come true while others are not. You can tell the difference by letting things flow naturally and seeing what happens. Even when something will never happen I think it’s okay to have a little bit of hope in order to stay inspired and feel excited about life, but you have to try so hard to keep that hope contained in a safe space that can do no harm. I have definitely struggled with this at times and maybe this is one of those things I came into this world to learn and really experience soul growth. It’s so extremely difficult sometimes but it’s like a muscle that gets stronger as I grow older.

Stay inspired! 😺