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Tuesday’s Tea ~ gratitude

As an alternative to “try-it Tuesday,” I also came up with “Tuesday’s Tea.” This will be casual ramblings, whatever is on my mind, sometimes philosophical and sometimes just rants.

Today’s tea is Rasberry Royale: black tea with a fruity pizzazz. The rasberry stands out and makes a perfect companion with the humble classic black tea. They do well together. It really wakes me up, in a steady and soothing way.


Be grateful.

Gratitude is the medicine for stress. By feeling thankful, you shift the wavelengths of your brain and train yourself to see things more positively.

Do not just count your blessings. Do not reserve your gratitude for what you consider to be “good” or “worthy.” If you are making a judgement before you offer thanks, then you are not practicing true gratitude.

Say “thank you” to everyone and everything. When someone acts kindly towards you, say “thank you.” When someone throws dirt at you, say “thank you.

To practice gratitude means to accept all, to live in the moment, and to feel at one with the universe. Be thankful for the “good,” the “bad,” the “neutral,” and everything in between.

Look back and remember all of the things that eventually brought you blessings. Remember how a few negative things had to happen in order for something very positive to happen. Remember how much you grew and learned from your mistakes.

And most importantly, remember that your belief system of what you think deserves praise verses what does not, is completely flawed. Your whole life you were trained and conditioned to thank people when they help you, to hold your tongue if they don’t, and to speak up and defend yourself if they displease you. The problem with this type of thinking is that we are trained to see “gratitude” as a form of manipulation into getting what we want.

Thank your friends and family. Thank the store clerks. Thank the birds who fly by. Thank the cars driving on the road. Thank the squirrels who cross your path. Thank your worst enemy. Thank your teachers and bosses. Thank your neighbors. Thank the earth. Thank your food before you eat. Thank perfection. Thank mistakes. Thank your feelings. Thank minor inconveniences. Thank the rooms you walk into, the doors you open, and the floor you walk on. Thank someone for thanking you. Thank yourself. Feel thankful.

And peace will reply back with, “you’re welcome!”

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I upgraded my blog so now my site name is officially lotuslaura.com!

The original lotuslaura94 WordPress link still works, and will lead you to the same page.

My new email is laura@lotuslaura.com for anything WordPress-related. Feel free to contact me!

(I am still continuing to use my personal Gmail account for personal emails.)

I’m absolutely ecstatic about this new change! Putting work into your passion brings rewards. I used to feel overly self-conscious about my writing but now I am able to feel proud. I couldn’t have gotten very far if it wasn’t for the positive feedback and support. Thank you so much for viewing, sharing, and expressing your interest.

More changes coming soon…

Lessons I’ve learned in friendship

1. Be grateful — be grateful for people who are kind and caring because that is very rare in life. I have wasted a lot of energy on negative situations when I could have been using that energy to focus on the people who make me happy.

2. Let go of expectations — friendships should not come with contracts or rules you have to follow. Also everyone is unique and we all have different ideas about how to show someone you care.

3. Let go when you know you should — if someone continues to hurt you, there is no need for confrontation or revenge. Sometimes you really do need to sit down with someone and have an honest conversation, if necessary. But if it’s a continuous thing then don’t waste energy on them anymore. They are not going to change, if they really do then it’s something they need to do on their own. Dont take someone else’s inner issues into your own hands. Let them do their own inner work.

4. Time will tell — friends come and go. Some friendships can be so exciting, uplifting, and authentic– yet remain short-lived. Or sometimes you quit being friends with someone for years and you somehow fall back together and refresh your friendship. People flow in and out, it’s normal for people to fight or misunderstand each other. Friends may become enemies, or enemies may become friends. You don’t really know for sure what your timeline is with anybody until you look back one day.

5. Anyone can be your friend — friends don’t have to be exactly the same. You can be total opposites and come from different backgrounds and still get along. You can have different ideas and beliefs about life, but still find a common ground. It’s about being able to put those differences aside for the sake of feeling connected to one another and realizing we are all more similar than we seem.

Friendship Appreciation

Yesterday was “National Best Friend Day,” and so I was inspired to write a lot about the value of friendship. These go out to old friends, new friends, current friends, ex-friends, and friends that I still haven’t met yet.

A “relationship” refers to the dynamic between two people who interact with one another. It does not necessarily imply romance, of course it can be completely platonic. You can still get your heart broken by a friend. You don’t have to be related to someone by blood or by law to care for them deeply, or feel hurt by them.

In fact, it is almost worse to be betrayed by a friend as opposed to a romantic partner. It is almost expected to feel hurt by a lover, you know, because all is fair in love and war. But to be betrayed by a friend feels like a cheap shot. It feels extremely unnecessary, like a personal attack. Friends are supposed to be an escape from all the drama that love comes with. So surely, friends can break your heart deeper than any ex-lover could.

Friendship is such a beautiful thing. I consider myself extremely introverted and even slightly anti-social. Yet still, I highly value deep connections we make in life. And they deserve to be appreciated.

It’s too easy to dislike people, or make enemies, or see the worst in someone. If you can see past someone’s flaws and are able to simply have good vibes with someone then that’s an awesome thing. There’s enough pain in the world and it’s nice to have people you can laugh with. You can be really cool with someone, yet sometimes the energy can get too strong or out of control, and then people overthink, and then uncool things happen. So just chill, avoid the bad vibes, and soak up those good vibes!

Day 12: write about 5 blessings in your life

  1. I’m blessed to have my health, although I do have a few health issues which is common, I’m lucky I have full use of my body. I’m blessed to be able to simply walk and move around easily without any physical pain. I’m really grateful for the body that I was given. For the most part it is a pretty easy body to manage.
  2. My cat, who is sitting on my lap right now, is a huge blessing in my life. Even though she is a huge pain in the butt most of the time, I’m so happy to be around her… to pet her soft fur, hear those precious purrs, watch her act like a spaz with total amusement.
  3. Many people in my life I feel blessed to know. Everyone is unique and irreplaceable. But especially some more than others.
  4. I’m blessed that I live in such a safe and stable environment. I actually lost my credit card recently and a stranger found it and closed it for me before anyone could try stealing. It’s amazing to feel protected like that. I really got lucky to live in an area like this. In any other type of environment it would be so easy for strangers with negative intentions to take advantage of me. So I really appreciate where I am.
  5. Every single time I put positive energy out into the world, I can feel myself receiving it back. And I watch people putting negative energy into the world and get it thrusted right back at them. Of course bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. But I can promise you that if your intentions are pure, the universe knows that. It is not a matter of “will good or bad things happen to me?” It’s a matter of, “when bad things happen to me, will it feel like the universe has my back or not?” And if you have support from the universe, then you can tough out the craziest storms with ease.

Thanks

Today I’m back in NY for Thanksgiving. It was mom, dad, Julia, and Scott. We had a nice and relaxing day. Good to see family again.

I was the family bartender again. I made our traditional apple cider mimosas with cinnamon sugar rims.

Venus was especially ecstatic to be in a big house again and have more space to run around.

Thankful for many things and many people! As the days become shorter and colder, it’s easy to fall down in the dumps. It is vital to make an effort to keep a positive attitude which is done by keeping a grateful heart. This recent snowstorm — seeing all these cars getting into accidents reminded me that people underestimate the force of nature. Many people believe that they are “above” nature, that they can control the universe. Sometimes you just have to surrender to the universe. As long as you keep a grateful heart then there’s nothing to worry about.