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Lessons I’ve learned in friendship

1. Be grateful — be grateful for people who are kind and caring because that is very rare in life. I have wasted a lot of energy on negative situations when I could have been using that energy to focus on the people who make me happy.

2. Let go of expectations — friendships should not come with contracts or rules you have to follow. Also everyone is unique and we all have different ideas about how to show someone you care.

3. Let go when you know you should — if someone continues to hurt you, there is no need for confrontation or revenge. Sometimes you really do need to sit down with someone and have an honest conversation, if necessary. But if it’s a continuous thing then don’t waste energy on them anymore. They are not going to change, if they really do then it’s something they need to do on their own. Dont take someone else’s inner issues into your own hands. Let them do their own inner work.

4. Time will tell — friends come and go. Some friendships can be so exciting, uplifting, and authentic– yet remain short-lived. Or sometimes you quit being friends with someone for years and you somehow fall back together and refresh your friendship. People flow in and out, it’s normal for people to fight or misunderstand each other. Friends may become enemies, or enemies may become friends. You don’t really know for sure what your timeline is with anybody until you look back one day.

5. Anyone can be your friend — friends don’t have to be exactly the same. You can be total opposites and come from different backgrounds and still get along. You can have different ideas and beliefs about life, but still find a common ground. It’s about being able to put those differences aside for the sake of feeling connected to one another and realizing we are all more similar than we seem.

*An unlikely friendship*

It was the best type of friendship: an unlikely friendship. A kind of friendship that may make you wonder. It was two different aliens on two different planets from two different galaxies.

He was a zany dork who made gross potty jokes and picked on people for laughs. She was awkward and childish like a little brat. And they kind of hated each other, but not actually. In a way, he was avuncular or paternal to her. And she was daughterly to him in a wholesome way. It was a friendship — an unlikely friendship.

But it all just seemed so unlikely, and so it turned into a forced friendship. This was full of stress and anxiety. The more it was attempted to be controlled, the more out of control it became. And then it was no longer.

However, over time there was growth and lessons learned. And, in an unlikely turn of events, the friendship was restored. Expect the unexpected.

Friendship Appreciation

Yesterday was “National Best Friend Day,” and so I was inspired to write a lot about the value of friendship. These go out to old friends, new friends, current friends, ex-friends, and friends that I still haven’t met yet.

A “relationship” refers to the dynamic between two people who interact with one another. It does not necessarily imply romance, of course it can be completely platonic. You can still get your heart broken by a friend. You don’t have to be related to someone by blood or by law to care for them deeply, or feel hurt by them.

In fact, it is almost worse to be betrayed by a friend as opposed to a romantic partner. It is almost expected to feel hurt by a lover, you know, because all is fair in love and war. But to be betrayed by a friend feels like a cheap shot. It feels extremely unnecessary, like a personal attack. Friends are supposed to be an escape from all the drama that love comes with. So surely, friends can break your heart deeper than any ex-lover could.

Friendship is such a beautiful thing. I consider myself extremely introverted and even slightly anti-social. Yet still, I highly value deep connections we make in life. And they deserve to be appreciated.

It’s too easy to dislike people, or make enemies, or see the worst in someone. If you can see past someone’s flaws and are able to simply have good vibes with someone then that’s an awesome thing. There’s enough pain in the world and it’s nice to have people you can laugh with. You can be really cool with someone, yet sometimes the energy can get too strong or out of control, and then people overthink, and then uncool things happen. So just chill, avoid the bad vibes, and soak up those good vibes!