The greatest reason we do not chase after our dreams is because they scare us. It may sound ironic and illogical, but it is entirely true. There are several reasons for this.
1. The only thing harder than reaching the top (whatever “the top” means for you — it’s different for everyone) is staying there. When you obtain something you desire, you risk the pain of losing it. But when you are at the bottom, you have nothing to lose.
The best way to handle this feeling is remembering that there is no such thing as “the top.” No human being is perfect and there will always be room for growth and improvement. Even if you fall down, you are still further than you would’ve been if you never tried.
2. It’s easier to lie to yourself and say, “if I really went after this, I could have it” and refuse to try, instead of chancing real rejection. Typically we feel like giving up just when we are moments away from achieving something.
Rethink the way that you see rejection. Instead, use the word “refocus” over “rejection” because that’s what it really is. No one has the power to end you. It is not about being denied, but being guided to change your focus. Letting go of a small opportunity could lead you to a much bigger and better opportunity.
3. We may not believe that we are worthy of our dreams. If you think you don’t deserve something then you won’t put your heart into it. You must be able to truly picture yourself having something before you can have it.
Look back and focus on your wins, not your losses. Think about all the things you take for granted now that your past self never had. Make an effort to visualize your goals and really feel them.
4. When you are happy and successful, you attract jealousy. You may be worried of people sabotaging you because you got what you wanted and they did not. Misery loves company — and if you’re feeling satisfied in life, you’re going to lose that company.
Stay humble and do not be a bragger. This should come naturally if you are following your heart rather than seeking validation. Encourage others, pep them up. However — sometimes no matter what you do, some people despise seeing you satisfied. If that’s the case then it’s time to rethink who you spend your time with.
Failure is comfortable, especially when it’s something you are so used to. You have to go deep inside to find that spark of hope. You have to go beyond the world of limitations.